Often times, humans have "grumblings," or inner monologues that no one else witnesses that can review a day and correspond with our moods, Br. John-Marmion Villa said. 

"Grumbling happens within me as well, more than I care to admit," Villa said in the Sept. 27 bulletin of St. Paul's Church of the Blessed Sacrament. "And it often comes so subtly that I hardly know that it is happening, and I find myself moody, irritable, and sometimes careless with my work … The prevalence of grumbling in the Rule (of St. Benedict)— and even in our own personal and spiritual lives— shows us an area of growth well worth embracing: obedience seen as humility."

Obedience can be difficult; but to gain control of our grumbling, we can follow five suggestions from Villa.

First, breath deeply during stressful situations. This can help calm nerves and gain control over thoughts, Villa said in the bulletin.

Second, smile to lighten the mood.

Third, record your gratitude in a journal, whether it's something small you're grateful for like a morning cup of coffee or something much larger.

Fourth, pray before situations or take moments of silence to speak with God to guide you.

Fifth, speak honorably and gracefully, because we do not have to leave our speech up to our emotions.

"Learning how to become more aware and mindful of our self-talk seems like such a mundane skill, but as we learn to become masters over our thoughts, we can learn that obedience to God’s will through humility is an avenue to experience an abiding interior peace that the world cannot give," Villa said. "Imagine maintaining that tranquility of soul throughout the storms of life. It seems impossible; but on the contrary, with much discipline and effort, it indeed is possible to make progress."