Members of the Catholic Church of the Resurrection in Rochester, Minn., heard the message that God created sex for a husband and wife to unite and share in his power of creation.

The Rev. Peter Schuster shared questions and answers posed in My Catholic Life, something he promised to continue doing in the church bulletin. 

One question in the magazine came from a person whose unmarried friends are sexually active. The writer cares about those friends and thinks they are good people, but didn't know how to encourage them to reconsider their behavior without insulting them.

My Catholic Life shared the concern for the couple, offering a few thoughts to consider.

"I’d say that it’s a good thing you don’t want to 'insult' your friends as you say. Usually, how we say something is just as important as what we say," Schuster quoted My Catholic Life's response in the bulletin. "If your friends feel as though you don’t understand them, are judging them or are angry at them they may not listen to you."

The message this friends wants to share is important for them to hear as a sexual relationship outside of marriage is not part of God's plan for anyone. The magazine offered a look at the message that should be shared and the best way to communicate it to them.

God created sex as a way for a husband and wife to unite and to share in God's power of creation, the bulletin reported My Catholic Life said. But this should only be shared if two people have joined together in marriage. 

"The main problem with sex outside of marriage is that it is a lie," Schuster said the answer continued. "Two people who are not permanently and exclusively committed to each other in marriage ought not try and say, with their bodies ,that they are."

The act of sex outside of the commitment confuses things, and deep down everyone knows that.

"The problem is that, sometimes, these good desires, meant to be shared with one’s spouse, will do great damage when used in any other way," Schuster quoted My Catholic Life as saying. "In fact, I’m quite confident that your friends, or anyone having a sexual relationship outside of marriage, knows that what they are doing is wrong."

We also need to remember that sex is also made for the possibility of children.